When somebody says they don’t want to see you any more, there’s often heartbreak. You’re left wondering what you did wrong – and more important, what you can do to get your ex back. You’re probably longing to see him again, or even just to hear his voice. You check your phone for texts and voicemails every few minutes.
Maybe you’ve heard there’s a way to get your ex back with text messages? It’s true, but it’s important to know what to text your ex to get him back. And even more important, when you should send each message. Read on to find out some of the secrets to getting your ex back with text messages.
To make things simple we’re writing this article as if your ex is a man, but everything here should work just the same way if your ex is female.
Begin with no contact
The first thing that you must do – and this is essential to the process of getting your ex back – is go through a 30 day period where you don’t contact him at all.
Relationship coach Michael Fiore warns that this will be hard! Your mind will be constantly coming up with ‘reasons’ to contact him. You’ll worry that he might meet someone else or that he’ll enjoy life more without you. But you have to stick to it. Yes there is a chance he still won’t want you after 30 days – but there’s also a chance that he will. Right now, he definitely doesn’t want you, and contacting him now will only drive him farther away.
What if you can’t avoid your ex?
What if you need to have contact with your ex for practical reasons? Maybe you have kids together, you work together or you’re both invited to the same event?
In that situation, you can have contact during the 30 days period but keep it as business-like as possible, don’t get in touch unless you really need to and try to do things through other people. So for example if you have stuff at his apartment, send a friend to collect it instead of going yourself (and if possible, have the friend make the arrangements with him).
If you work together, avoid going by his cubicle. Yes that won’t look natural but you won’t be able to act natural at this stage anyway. Remember, avoid contact unless it’s absolutely necessary – and even then, let him contact you whenever you can.
Across the bow texts
So, what happens after you’ve gotten through 30 days of no contact? Experts are agreed that the first type of text message you should send your ex is an ‘across the bow’ (ATB). This type of text message from Michael Fiore’s Text Your Ex Back system has become well known.
You can find more about Text Your Ex Back in our review, but exactly what is an across the bow text?
The term ‘across the bow’ comes from the age of sailing ships. When a ship encountered another ship that it couldn’t immediately identify as friend or foe, the captain would order a warning shot to be fired across the front of the ship (the ‘bow’ in nautical terms). It was a little like police shooting into the air: it warned the other vessel to show its colors. It was a harmless shot but it said, “we have weapons and we’re prepared to use them”.
In modern times this term has come to mean showing that you are serious about something. For example, a letter from an attorney threatening to sue over something could be described as a shot across the bow. It’s not going as far as actually starting a court action, but it shows you are prepared to do that if you have to.
Applying this to texting your ex, it simply means a message ‘out of the blue’ that your ex wasn’t expecting. It’s not an emotional message and it doesn’t threaten anything. It really just lets your ex know that you think of him from time to time – in a good way. Let’s see now some examples of an across the bow text.
Across the Bow text examples
So we’ve seen that ATB texts are used to remind your ex of the good times that you had together. They’re NOT texts in which you suggest meeting or even talking on the phone.In fact, you don’t propose anything at all. You’re going to leave your ex to decide for himself that he wants to meet up with you again.
Remember, this text comes after 30 days of no contact. Don’t skip that step, however hard it may be.
So with that reminder, let’s see some examples of Across the Bow texts:
“I was just at Raoul’s and it reminded me of that time we ate dinner there after the parade. Made me smile. Hope you’re doing great :=)”
“Just saw a dog that reminded me of your Dad’s pooch, made me laugh. Hope you and Buster are doing fine”
So as you can see, ATB texts do three things:
- They remind your ex of a time when you two were happy together
- They show your ex that those are happy memories for you, not painful, needy ones
- They wish your ex well.
And importantly, they don’t ask your ex for anything (not even a reply).
The action that you take after that will depend on whether your ex replies, and what he says if he does. We can’t go into all of the details of the following strategies in this short article. Some of these strategies include:
- Intimacy Booster Texts
- Green Eyed Monster Texts
- Emotional Honesty Texts
- Texts To Turn Your Ex On
It’s important that they’re all done at the right time, in the right order. The later ones must only be sent after you’re already getting certain responses from your ex.
You only have one chance at getting your ex back – so be sure to get it right!
You need to know exactly what to do – every step of the way.
Relationship coach Michael Fiore says he can help you – and has already helped many other guys and girls to get their ex back with a series of simple text messages.
One happy customer said,
“tried the txt seduction …
it worked like a charm … thank you”
– Diana Hart on Facebook, Feb 10th, 2013
But beware: there are a lot of incomplete copies going around. Order only from Michael’s official website to get the complete system with access to the support that you’ll need, plus a 60-day guarantee: your money back if it doesn’t work.
If you want your ex back, this could be the only way. You don’t know if it will work until you try.
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