I Miss My Ex Girlfriend – Does She Miss Me?

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If you’ve recently broken up with your girlfriend, you may be feeling a multitude of emotions, including sadness, regret or frustration. Sometimes this time of depression can take over your life, especially if the relationship ended with unanswered questions.

Perhaps you were initially very angry at the breakup, but now that some of the dust has settled, you may be finding yourself realizing “I miss my ex girlfriend.” This article will take you through some of the signs your ex girlfriend wants you back and the things you can do to figure out if your ex girlfriend is missing you as well. Read on to learn more.

Does My Ex Girlfriend Miss Me?

First, remember that what you’re feeling is completely natural. After most breakups, both parties are missing each other. Now to answer the question, “does my ex girlfriend miss me?” you will need to take note of some important information. Start with, who instigated the breakup, or if it was not just one person, was it mutual?

If it was you who decided that you two should break up in the first place, then your chances will be pretty sure that she is missing you right now. But even if it was mutual or if she was the one who said she wanted the breakup, there is still a high chance that she is missing you too (especially if you are missing her as well).

To answer the question “does my ex girlfriend miss me?” you will also want to consider a few more pieces of information.

How Long Were You Dating?

If your relationship had only lasted for a few months, this could just be a bump in the road. After all, in a relationship that is only a few months old, there is bound to be a section of time in which you are still getting to know each other and figuring out what pushes each other’s buttons. Even though you’re apart now, she may be missing you and a mutual friend or a program like Mike Fiore’s Text Your Ex Back will end up bringing you back together and give you time to talk out whatever made you break up in the first place.

If you had been dating for years, is this your first breakup? Did you miss your ex girlfriend and did your ex miss you at that time? If you’ve broken up before and then gotten back together, that means that you both missed each other at that time, and this could be simply a repeat of that scenario.

How Did The Breakup Go?

Now consider how the breakup happened. Was it a fiery breakup with a lot of tears and a lot of fighting? Or was it a calm and perhaps tearful goodbye? The former (a loud and angry breakup) means there was a lot of passion in the relationship. Passion can cause both great love and great pain, so actually this is a good thing, and it means that after the two of you split in a rage and both calmed down you realized that you may have both overreacted.

If the breakup was a calm one where one of you approached the other or you had a calm breakup discussion, that means there is likely a lot of friendship and love there, and it will be very hard for you to now be completely without her and for her not to miss you.

Signs Your Ex Girlfriend Wants You Back

There are several key signs to knowing when your ex girlfriend wants you back. The first sign is probably the most obvious, and that is if she continues contact with you. Your ex girlfriend will definitely be missing you if she texts or calls you, likes or comments on your Facebook or contacts you in any other way even as seldom as once a week. This means that you are on her mind, and if you’re on her mind that means your ex misses you.

If this happens, don’t rush into anything, just be open and kind with her. Don’t be pushy about “talking” or seeing each other. Just remember to be nice, and she will remember how great it was to be with you and say she wants you back.

This may seem counter intuitive, but the opposite of the first sign is also a sign that your ex girlfriend wants you back. This means, if your girlfriend never ever contacts you it could be a sign she is actually thinking about you all the time and missed you. The truth is, ignoring someone completely is something that a girl will do because she wants to shove it in your face that she doesn’t care, especially if it was you that dumped her.

Similarly, if she appears to have “moved on” because you see lots of pictures of her having fun and hanging all over guys, this may be a farce, and it’s actually her plan. Don’t buy it. A girl may only do that to make you jealous, because she misses you. Again, don’t be mean about it, just continue to be distant but nice, and eventually she will break down and ask to talk or to see you.

Breaking up is never easy, but most of us have all gone through tough breakups, and the rate of reuniting after a breakup is tremendously high if you do the right things. So if you are thinking “I miss my ex girlfriend,” just give it time, don’t get too frustrated, watch for the signs your ex girlfriend wants you back and remember to always be open and kind.

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134 thoughts on “I Miss My Ex Girlfriend – Does She Miss Me?

  1. Kegan

    Here’s the skinny. I thought I found “the one”. She had that IT factor that you can’t explain.We got along great. We rarely fought. It didn’t start off as lust relationship. We initially were friends and it grew into something more. We dated only for a year. There was a month break in there. I know she never had any intention of hurting me, even when we fought. And I think she even delayed breaking it off because she didn’t want to hurt me.

    When she was ending it. She told me she had been been having doubts. And the feeling just won’t go away. We had talked about these doubts on several occasions. And I thought we had worked through them. Everyone has doubts right? It’s what keeps you honest in a relationship. To me, knowing that we could have an open non-judgemental discussion about her doubts made me feel confident that we were growing. And could honest with each other. Maybe I was just ignorant. While breaking up she told me that she wanted more than anything to be with me. But her gut was telling her we weren’t meant to be together becuz I deserve to be with a girl who doesn’t have these feelings. She said the reason it was so hard to break it off was because she doesn’t have a reason why. It just didn’t feel right to her.

    Because of how open we were with each I don’t really know if I buy that she was trying to let me down easy by saying that. Again that may just be ignorance. I think she is just so wrapped up in the idea of having a perfect relationship that she won’t settle for anything less.

    Maybe I messed up by being so confident about us. Maybe I didn’t understand where she was coming from like I should have. Like I mentioned we had broke up before. But I always could tell that she still loved me and we’d get back together. This time was different though. She was cold. Something in her eyes didn’t sparkle like they used to.

    It’s hard for me to find closure because I know what we had felt so right to me. She said it wasn’t true, but I felt that she was making it sound like I just wasn’t good enough. I don’t know what to do. Do I let her go? Do I persue? Do I give her time and space? My go-to is no contact. But it’s hard when she’s texting me that she misses me constantly. I just feel like her saying that is meaningless. There’s no action behind her words. I still haven’t texted or called her back. I don’t know. If I truely love her, maybe I should just let her go.

    Do you have any thoughts or suggestions? Can I get her back? Should I get her back?

    1. Jennie Hernandez Post author

      It sounds like she is trying to hang onto you for when she wants to talk, while refusing to commit to anything more. That’s likely to be a horrible position for you. It won’t be an equal friendship and I think you’re right to stay away for now.

      I would see how you feel after 30 days of no contact. If at that time you still want her back, you might have a good chance. But she will need time to sort out how she feels. Hopefully she’ll start to understand that relationships need work and don’t come easy like a perfect fitting suit right off the shelf. But she will need to figure this out for herself. You can’t tell her, because it will sound like you are trying to talk her into something.

    2. Storm

      Wow, your story is exactly what’s happened to me exactly a month ago. I was with her for 2.5 years. we broke up once before for about 2 months then she came back. This time around she kept talking about gut feelings etc. We had just had a very good night the previous night and even as at 12:30Pm of the day of the break up, she was still txting me she loves me etc.

      Later that day around 5 ish, she calls me to tell me she’s had a dream and she had been speaking with her mom and she thinks we should just be friend. Her gut tells her we might break up if we got engaged or married. I was shocked. Since she said she didn’t want the relationship anymore, I didn’t beg or argue. she mentioned some other things about our fight over the summer which she said she couldn’t forget. I asked her if she thought she had be fair to me, she got really really upset and just started shouting at me. I remained calm and said to her, we are but adults, can’t we have a matured dialogue?

      However, since I had to rush back to the office (I was on my way to the office and she made me turn back to come over to talk to her coz she had this dream and her emotions were all over the place), I simply got up and was leaving. She got so upset and started yelling at me even more. It got me really confused and i had to turn to ask her, isn’t this what you want? She just kept yelling at me and i told her this is very unhealthy and that i was gonna make sure this break up was permanent.

      While i had left her apartment, i was waiting on the elevator, which took about 3 mins to come coz their was construction going on, While waiting, i could hear here screaming and shouting in her living room. It really bothered me. I kept wondering why is she so mad if she wanted to break up. I am the dumpee, i should be the one angry but i stayed calm

      3 weeks later, she msgs me about some money and a ring she left at my house. she suggested to she would come over in 2 days to pick it up. I am not sure why, when i could have giving it to a friend to hand it to her. Anyways, I immediately transferred the money to her account and FedEx her ring back.

      It’s exactly a week since i returned the ring and money, she never replied that she got it or anything but i know she did. if she’s over me why is she acting so angry.

      I really love this girl and we spoke of marriage, kids and our future together. I’m hurt by her ways and don’t know what to do. i have been no contact immediately after the break up. I haven’t stalked her social media or anything. I would want us to work out or relationship, but i am afraid she might be gone.

      Help me make sense of all this please!

      1. Jennie Hernandez Post author

        It does sound strange. Maybe she is stressed about other things. It sounds like you’re doing the right thing, and I think this system gives you the best chance of getting her back.

  2. James

    Hi my gf of a year and I recently broke up a few days ago. We had an amazing relationship where I felt things I hadn’t felt before. We had been arguing about stuff off and on but never fighting. A huge problem in our relationship was her not being able to trust me. There are a lot of women in my social circle and I spend time that I’m not with her out with my friends. It was always a big issue despite the fact that she told me on multiple occasions that she didn’t want me to change anything about it. When we broke up a few days ago she told me that that was the main reason, that she just couldn’t trust me. she kept alternating between crying and getting heated about her reasonings for doing so. The last few days have been me attempting to talk to her telling her how much I love her and want her back, telling her about all of the amazing things she has brought into my life. In response she will tell me that she appreciates all these things but needs space. I don’t want to move on for her but am very lost about what to do. I think she still wants me but it breaks my heart every second thinking about her being with someone else.
    What should i do?

    1. Jennie Hernandez Post author

      I would give her the space she’s asking for. It sounds to me like you may want different things from a relationship, and a little time apart would help you both figure that out and find some common ground.

      When someone says “This bothers me, but I don’t want you to change,” it can mean “I wish you would change that, but I don’t want you to feel I made you do it. I just wish you would want to.” She may have wanted you to spend more time with her and didn’t want to say so for fear of sounding clinging or jealous. Or she may be looking for someone who would be saving money to settle down rather than going out so much. I don’t know, of course, but that kind of thing can be hard to say. Some space might help you both discuss what you want deep down.

  3. Darryl

    Hi, me and my ex was together for 2 months it litrelly was the best 2 months aswell, we went to an engagement do it was her best friends on Saturday. I was introduced to some of her work lot and there was this one guy we spoke about footy shared the same footy teams and we left it at that, through the night he was saying nobody should mention football to him while he was drunk (and I was told to be careful as he’s like that with young lads) and while getting into the Taxi on the way home he attacked me infront of my partner. My partner works with him didn’t say a thing or try stop this, We got out of the taxi I was calling for my partner I said ‘jade’ & said ‘Come here’ but she walked away back to the event so I kick off when I tried to get her attention swearing a little nothing direct to her just in frustration, it’s understandable I was in shock, I knew nobody, was targeted by a random man & wanted my partner to support me and she walked away, I finished her that night and finished her drunk, the next day her friend said we should speak as she said we was the best thing to happen to each other but then I found out she was telling my ex to leave me after how I reacted? I spoke to family and friends and everyone says I did nothing wrong I just wanted my partner to back me. I messaged my ex she didn’t want to talk the next day. I then heard from her in the evening and she said I went to far when she was walking away but all I wanted was support but can’t see my view anyone normally would support their partner. That morning she said I can’t wait to me you wife and we had great intentions we always said we loved each other and that was the first argument we had. But now since Saturday we haven’t spoke and I’m doing no contact. All her work lot was there and i feel she’s probably been brainwashed at work taking her side but really I did nothing wrong I wanted to get my ex and move away from the situation. Just want some advice I’ve looked on so many pages and they said she’ll be hurting but just want your help please.

    1. Jennie Hernandez Post author

      OK, so if I were you I’d stop bothering about what anybody else says or thinks except you and your ex. Your friends and family are supporting you by saying you did nothing wrong. Hers are supporting her by saying she was right to be upset. None of that matters, it’s not a question of right or wrong, they’re all just being supportive to their own friend. You both have people looking out for you – that’s a good thing.

      It sounds to me like you both feel you were right and the other one was wrong. If you don’t come down off that position, the relationship won’t survive. Try to see it from her point of view. You had a few drinks and got into an argument with someone from her work. That’s not going to make her look good at work. If I was in her position I might have been supportive to you after we left and we were alone, but not at the time. I wouldn’t have wanted to get involved in an argument with my co-worker. I’m not saying the argument was your fault, very likely it wasn’t, but I understand why she wanted to keep out of it.

      My advice would be to spend a little time imagining you were a woman and this was happening to you, and see if you can understand why she did what she did, even if you don’t think it was the ideal behavior. And try to stop thinking about who is right or wrong. Just see that you’ve both hurt each other and the best thing you can do is apologize for your share in it – without expecting that she will immediately apologize too. After that, step back and give her some space to think.

      You may have said sorry already, but from the way you’ve written here I would guess you said something like “Sorry but I did nothing wrong” or “Sorry but it was the other guy’s fault.” “Sorry but” is not an apology, it’s a defense. Try just saying “Sorry I got angry” or “Sorry I upset you” without any “but” after it.

      It’s difficult! But it’s worth learning to do that. It will make a huge difference in all your relationships – family, friends, everything.

  4. Justin

    I have just recently been dumped by my first serious girlfriend. We had been going out for about 5 months and seeing each other about 7 months.
    In the beginning it was great and we both couldn’t keep our hands off each other and we used to spend so much time together.
    Then about three months ago things got more distant and she started grudging the time we were spending and said she felt like she was now fitting me in at the weekends because that was all we could see each other some weeks. We grew distant but still spoke on the phone every night and when I wanted to arrange things such as date nights or nights/weekends away I could tell she wasn’t really into the idea of it.
    She went a week long holiday with her family before we broke up and during this time she decided it would be good not to talk to me (I knew this was because she was going to give the relationship some thinking time) and when she got back she told me that she had not missed me and felt we should break up.
    I don’t know what to do now, I was upset when we finished but I have not been in contact with her since except one time to respond to her when she was asking a specific question.
    Do you think there is any hope here that she can miss me and we could go back to how it was in the beginning and if so what should I do in the meantime?


  5. jake

    I have a very strange interesting story to tell.
    I met this beautiful lady on a dating website, quickly we switched contact details and started to text each other, didn’t take that long to feel very interested to meet up.
    but that wasn’t easy, we both have children and we live so distant from each other, we really wanted to meet but the conditions were against us.
    so, we agreed on moving on and can try other people and if we meant to each other then we will find a way to get in touch.
    didn’t take that long and we texted each other again despite the idea that we both started to date different people but we were always curious about each other. then we stopped for a while, texted back for a while and it kept running like that for about 9 months.
    by that time my conditions changed, me and my ex have finished our contracts and we both wanted to move out of town and we settled on the fact that the kids will stay with her at the time being full time because they’re so young and we are both moving from our town for 2 different towns because of work.
    so I moved really close to that sms woman because of my new job, we wanted to meet in real life and see how would it be. we sparked from the very first moment we met and didn’t take that long to feel very close to each other, super happy and like this life is the very correct one for both of us, but… sometimes she used to act wierd.
    after 3 months of dating I found out that she has a boyfriend, I was shocked and waited for her to tell me but she didn’t, until I confronted her and she didn’t deny it at all, she said that she got trapped in that relationship, bought a property with her boyfriend and she’s finishing it, and that’s why she sees me.
    the bond became stronger between us, I swear that the deep feelings and understanding that we have is like nothing on earth, all the songs are written about us, she had told me that I’m her soul mate and she never was that close to anyone before, we both are very happy all the time when we are together.
    she started to interduce me to her children, we spend most of the time together. until one day she texted me and told me that her boyfriend found out about us and she lied to him about who we are because she was scared, and that he was so sad and she didn’t want to hurt him. so I offered her to step away from her life but she really wanted me to stay so I stayed.
    after a while things started to be on a roller costar, ups and downs so often, she feels like coming and going like she doesn’t have a clue what she wants, she still has a lot of things to sort out and finalize with her boyfriend. after a while she told me that she doesn’t want to hold me back and asked me to move on, but that didn’t take so long to come back and tell me that she still wants to see me.
    we planned to go for a vacation for few days and we both were so exited about it and looking forward, the night before our flight she texted me a picture if a note that her boyfriend found out about us again and he’s leaving her. and that she felt so guilty about it. so we catched up for a last time to say good bye or (see you later in life) and told her that she should be single when she contact me again.
    I don’t know how I end up in this complicated “relationship” and why do I miss her so much despite the fact that I gave up the very lady fragment of dignity with her, and still hope that she’s coming back, I don’t know if she miss me like I miss her, if she will contact me again how should I react?

    1. Jennie Hernandez Post author

      How you react would depend on whether you are willing to be her “side dish” if she has not left her boyfriend.

      If you want to have an exclusive relationship with her, where neither one of you sees other people, you’d want to be sure she had moved out and wasn’t seeing her boyfriend anymore.

      But I have to say also, that somebody who has been deceiving her boyfriend for so many months is likely to do the same thing again. In a year or two, you might be the boyfriend finding her messages to somebody new.


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